This morning, with Valentine’s Day approaching, I thought it well to tell Pauline about when I first began to realize I was falling in love with her.
“You’ve never told me this,” she said; then she shared her side of the story: the time when she began to feel the same about me.
This romantic beginning of the day launched my thoughts to a Saturday morning when I drove to my valentine’s house to talk to her about setting a date for our wedding.
Standing in the driveway at her parent’s home, I chose a few small stones and tossed them gently against her upstairs bedroom window.
“Want to get married next Saturday,” I called when she peered sleepily down on me?
“I’ll be right down,” she answered, now sounding wide awake. What a week that was!
We contacted our minister, reserved the church, sent out invitations and the following Saturday had a church full of guests at our wedding and reception.
This “church wedding in a week” should have tipped me off to the adventurous nature of the beautiful young woman I was marrying but I still had a lot to learn about her. And now, in our fifty ninth year together, I’m still making discoveries.
I’ve discovered my wife is a woman of great faith.
Each morning finds Pauline alone with her Bible to read and pray. She’s continually translating the concepts of faith she’s been absorbing into her daily life and this has enabled her to courageously make decisions that some would think too risky.
When the time came for me to leave my job in sales and accept a small church at one third the salary, Pauline was ready to trust God would provide for us. This meant moving from our new home to an old rented farm house, but to her this was just part of the adventure she had signed on for the day we exchanged our vows, promising to build our marriage on love for each other and faith in God.
I’ve also discovered my wife can be trusted to do what she believes is best for our family. The writer of Proverbs says the husband of a virtuous woman can safely trust in her, adding “She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life” (Prov. 31:12). And I’ve discovered that in making important family decisions she is usually right. This has been the case so many times that I’ve often found myself saying, “You’re right again! Why does this surprise me?”
“It’s a heavy burden to bear,” she sighs. And another Proverb comes to mind: “She opens her mouth with wisdom and on her tongue is the law of kindness” (Prov. 31:26).
I’ve discovered my wife has an eye for beauty. Flowers, landscapes, paintings and color combinations were nice to notice but not all that important to me. Pauline has opened my eyes to the beauty around us and continually adds her special touch to it.
After all these years with my valentine, I’ve learned that a woman’s beauty deepens with time; so one day I told her so in the following lines:
When you stand before a mirror, tracing time’s art;
Look closely and you will see the beauty that binds you to my heart.