The holidays are fast approaching. Traditionally the holidays are a time of great joy, anticipation and celebration. But for some who are grieving due to the loss of a loved one, the holidays bring back memories and feelings that can be surprising in intensity. Loneliness, anxiety, numbness, apprehension or feeling out of place are just a few of the many feelings that may be experienced during the holidays by someone who is grieving.

Here are some ways to manage holiday grief:

Plan ahead for the holidays. Decide how much you want to do this holiday season and share your plans with your family. Create new holiday traditions.

Take care of yourself. Talk to others about your feelings. Let people know your having a difficult or emotional time. Don’t overwhelm or over commit yourself.

Understand that grieving is normal. When feelings come, let the feelings out. Give yourself permission to grieve. Share the memories of your loved one.

Be open to help. Ask for help and support from family and friends. Seek the prayers of your minister and church. Join a grief support group.

For more information on grief counseling and support groups, contact Joe Flores, LMSW, Bereavement Coordinator for CTMC Hospice Care, 512-754-6159 (toll free 866-754-6159), joe.flores@ahss.org.